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What To Do When You Think “Manifesting” Doesn’t Work

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Do you think “manifesting” is a bunch of hocus pocus woo woo crap?

Do you WANT to believe, but find your skeptical mind getting all up in the way?

Or maybe you think it’s some white girl pseudo science privilege nonsense and you’d rather never hear about it eeeeeeever again?!

I get it, I do.

It’s a total buzzword, cure-all, spiritual and cultural phenomenon right now and you can’t look at the internet without tripping over someone manifesting their dream life blah blah etc.

It can seem too good to be true, or too woo woo to be true, depending on where you’re coming from.

But in my experience, when you get it right it fucking WORKS.

You may have noticed that a lot of “successful” people, business people, and entrepreneurs believe in the “law of attraction.” (And just as many wouldn’t call it that, but do use these same prinicples to create success and meet their goals.)

And here’s the thing:

“Manifesting” is really just “goal setting” that we really, really 100% profoundly believe in the outcome of, and get our subconscious minds and energy behind as much as we do our “work” in the material world.

I like to explain it to the non-woo woo folks as “confirmation bias,” which can be a good or unhelpful phenomenon, but says that whatever we expect to see is exactly what we will see.

And so, if you EXPECT your “manifestation” or “goal” to come to be that is what will happen. And just as equally, if you expect that you can’t achieve or have what you want….well, you likely will half ass things, sabotage yourself, and not get where you’re going.

“Manifesting” is really just about getting your subconscious mind on board with what you desire.

The thing about that is the subconscious mind has a lifetime of existing programming behind it backing up your beliefs in a certain way, and if your desired outcome goes against that…shit gets tricky.

The other thing about the subconscious mind is that “changing” it to align with a new goal or belief takes some particular effort. It takes a strong emotion, and it takes repetition, and it takes proof.

Which are all generally things that will be applied in a successful “manifesting” process. You may visualize, spend time in meditation bringing up specific feelings you want to feel when you have your manfiestation in your life, and you may write or repeat specific affirmations (with feeling!)

And you may collect “proof” along the way that all of this is working.

It’s about focus, repetition, and belief in an outcome before it has come to pass.

It’s about choosing the direction of your life, instead of just coasting along getting more of the same old same old.

We are all always “manifesting” everything in our lives.

What we talk about as a manifesting process is simply choosing to do that with intention, and direct the course of our lives where we want it to go.

There are also some pretty miraculous things that can occur along the way, but this is the most pracitcal way I can break it all down for you!

Personally, I’ve “manifested” several different living situations, money, trips, jobs, and adventures – some of which I was actively trying to “manifest” and some that I can now see looking back on I intuitively followed this same process and had a strong desire and decision before the fact that it had to happen, and so it did.

If you need proof to believe this works, look back on your own life.

What are some significant things you’ve done (really anything that stands out in your mind) where you can say “oh yeah, that had to happen because I decided beforehand that it would.”

That’s “manifesting” a specific outcome in action, even if you didn’t call it that at the time.

And you can do it again, on purpose, and move towards specific things in your life!

This is what we’re going to be practicing and learning for the month of August inside the More Than A Meatsuit membership. I’m going to be sharing SO MANY resources, exercises, and practical tools as well as the theory behind how this all works so you can understnd – an import step in the process to get your subconscious mind on board!

We begin on Monday, and the doors are currently open to join us!

Get on in there and let’s create some cool shit in your life this month!!

How To “Go Quantum” + Manifest Your Desires

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Have you tried “going quantum” yet? 

I don’t know about you, but it seems like everywhere I look lately someone is talking about “going quantum” to manifest whatever they’re wanting into their life. 

We’ve definitely moved beyond the days of creating a vision board and calling it done when you want to attract a new experience to you.

Manifesting is actually all about the feeling you create, and with good reason. It’s not actually anything new. 

Way back in 1944 a dude named Neville Goddard published a book called “Feeling Is The Secret” which sums up this whole “quantum manifesting” practice incredibly well (you can actually read a PDF of the book for free here, if that’s your jam!) 

Because feeling really is the secret.  

Of “manifesting”your desires. And of making any change or growth you desire in your life really stick around. 

You have to feel the feelings of it being done, and of you now embodying a new version of you who is changed. Who acts, believes, feels, and has different experiences than “now” or “past” you had. 

The quantum manifesting principle goes like this: any and all potential you can imagine (and then some) exists as a possibility in the quantum field, aka the energy field that surrounds and connects all things (including you now, a future you, a past you, and any number of possible yous.) 

From one moment to the next you’re essentially hopping between all those version of you as things change.

If you’re not actively choosing or directing which potential you comes next, you basically just get more of the same – because it’s what you expect to see. (This is called the “observer effect” in quantum physics, wherein the observer will see whatever they expect to see out of all the potential options.) 

Because the quantum field is energy, it responds to your energy.  

Which is why “feeling is the secret,” because your feelings are kind of like the human wifi signal you’re constantly emitting. Which connects you with a compatible wifi signal in the field.

So you see, if you keep feeling how you’ve always felt – you keep creating more of the same life experiences that align with and perpetuate that feeling. And on, and on, and on. 

But if you can learn to manage those feeling states, to feel a very specific way, to imagine a new way (other than your habitual same-old) you can draw new potential experiences to you that align with that feeling state. 

And that, my friend, is “going quantum” or quantum manifesting.

The best way to practice this is, of course, in meditation. It can just be a few quiet moments, even, where you are still and practice bringing up a specific feeling state that you want to experience more of. A feeling state that you expect to experience when you have a certain life experience, or situation come to pass. 

Practice it now, and you’ll be moving in the direction of that thing you’re wanting to manfiest in no time (….that was definitely a quantum pun, because as we know there is “no time” in the quantum field 😂) 

Next week we’re going to begin “quantum manifesting” month in the More Than A Meatsuit membership community, where I’ll be leading you through a quantum, feeling-based meditation and visualization, and providing weekly exercises to really focus in on quantum leaping into whatever next-level version of you that you’re wanting to meet right now.

You can work on healing yourself, healing a relationship, you can work on your work, creating prosperity, or really any perspective shift you can imagine. 

 Doors to the community are open if you’d like to join us ahead of next week. 

This is one of my favourite topics to practice, share, and teach about so I know it’s going to be a good time. 

I’ll share more about these quantum principles in the coming week, but in the meantime, remember – feeling how you want to feel right now is the secret to having the life you want to have in the “future.” 

If you want to practice going quantum right now and stepping into your future, make sure you check out my free guided meditation to quantum leap into your future!

Meditation Monday: Meditation to Get Out of a Funk

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One of my favourite things to share with people is practical tools to improve their lives.

Which is exactly what I think meditation in general is, and specific styles of meditation in particular will especially be. 

The paradox of meditation is this: when you come to it with the intention to just be 100% in the moment, aware and non-judgemental of whatever is going on in your experience in that moment…eventually big fucking magic will occur.

But if you come to meditation trying and wanting and holding on really tightly looking for a specific outcome, ya just gonna end up frustrated and like “this doesn’t worrrrrk wtffff I was lied to?!

That is not to say, of course, that we cannot have an intention for our practice, but the intention needs to be about loosening up around something, not trying to control a particular outcome. 

It can feel like a fine line, and the opposite of how you’ve been living your entire life for most of us – especially the perfectionists, control freaks, and super high achievers (🙋)

Soooooo what’s a recovering perfectionist to do, you ask?

Calm the fuck down, for starters 😂😂😂 

I kid, I kid. But also not, and I say this as a constant reminder for myself as much as for you (as always.) 

I was initially going to call this practice “meditation for when you need to calm down”, probably because I listened to a biiiiit too much Taylor Swift last week (it happens to the best of us, right?) but then I realized I wanted this short practice to be one to break us out of any funky state. 
 

You could be really wound up and anxious about something.  

You could be obsessing over a particular outcome you want for a situation (a job, a date, relationship drama of any kind, an application or result, etc. 

You could be feeling totally off, just not yourself, uninspired, in a real funky funk. 

You could be pissed at someone, and even though you want to let go of those vibes you just can’t yet. 

Whatever your funk is about – this short 5 minute practice is for you.

Because often what’s happening when we’re in “a funk” is we’re stuck in a particular habitual thought loop that we just can’t (or don’t want) to break ourselves out of.

If might feel familiar to you, like you always react like this (even if you’re totally sick of it.) This is a sign that neural and energetic pathways in your brain and body have done this particular little dance so many times before it barely takes the suggestion of a similar thought, feeling, or situation and you’re allllll up in this reaction again. 

It’s hard to break out of these loops and patterns because our subconscious mind and chemical reactions in the body have wired in all kinds of shortcuts to help (ha ha ha) us have this reaction, because we have it so often, that your meatsuit wants to optimize, ok? Biology is efficient AF and the more you do something, the easier it becomes to do.  

Hence, our habits and patterns are sticky and tricky to break free of. 

But wait!!

All you really need to do is put some focus and energy towards interrupting the pattern, and repeat that NEW pattern, and you’ll start to build new pathways and habits that feel good, support your overall well being and growth.

And that is what this “meditation to get out of a funk” is for!

Use it to interrupt the pattern of your “funk” a bunch of times, and your “funks” will become more interruptible and not last as long. 

Listen, we’re all human out here and a “funk” or “bad mood” or “something really shitty happening” is bound to come up. But what we can do is make sure we have the tools to not get lost in the story of that, be with our feels instead of avoiding, and carry on with our bad selves despite any funky energy going down.

I made this meditation SHORT on purpose – because often when we’re feelin’ funky or crappy we don’t WANT to do anything about it. We have a sort of all-system tantrum and wanna wallow. 

But here’s the deal – 5 minutes is only 5 minutes. Tell yourself you’re just going to tryyyyyyyy this thing, no harm no foul, you can always go back to wallowing in Netflix afterwards and only 5 minutes were lost. 

You might be surprised, though 😇 

You can listen to the meditation right here:

The more often you do it, the more it will break down any patterns you have around obsessive thinking, worry, funky vibes, etc.

I’d love to hear how it goes when you try it, leave a comment below to let us know what kind of “funk” this helped you hop out of! 

If you want MORE meditations from me, make sure you check out my 30 Days of Meditation program – it’s a super affordable, easy way to get access to my 10+ years of meditation-related knowledge and practice in 30 simple, daily lessons straight to your inbox. If you’ve been wanting to get into a daily practice routine (or need some new inspiration for your existing practice) this is perrrrrrfect for you!

Love you!

Meditation Monday: How To Make Meditation A Daily Habit

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Hey hey!

Welcome to the first instalment of a new FREE series I’m starting, called…..yup, you guessed it “Meditation Monday!”

I know, super creative 😂 

I want to help you fall in love with meditation as a tool to improve your daily life, your spiritual connection, your intuition, and like…. #allthethings 
 

Last week I mentioned that the kundalini yoga community likes to joke that whatever you’re going through, “there’s a meditation for that,” and honestly – that’s how I feel 100% of the time.

Tell me a “problem” you have, and I’ll tell you how to meditate about it for genuine, lived results.

And so for the next indefinite amount of Mondays, I’m going to be sharing a new meditation practice with you, or a way you can use meditation in your life to see tangible results.

 
 Lots of these will be guided audio meditations, because that’s one of the biggest requests I’ve had recently – so get ready to get your practice on!

To get us started this week, however, I wanted to give you a few quick tips on how to make meditation a DAILY habit – because this is something that you really only see the “benefits” from when you do it regularly. We call it a “practice” because you are literally “practicing” a “skill”, mmkay? Just like anything you may want to “get better at” so too do you need to practice a meditation regularly (ideally daily) to see the promised “benefit.”

How to make meditation a daily habit: 
 

  1. Remember that a little goes a long way, and you’re better off with 2 minutes EVERY DAY than 15-30 once a week. It doesn’t have to be a massive undertaking at first (or even down the road on those days when you’re still like “I don’t wanna!” – it happens to all of us!)
  2. There’s no “wrong way” to meditate – if your intention is to be present, keep bringing your attention back to the practice at hand – you are “doing it right” and it will “work.”
  3. Know your “why” – there’s a great talk by Simon Sinek out there online about “starting with why” and this is the same – if you have a clear why/goal you will be more motivated to continue and you can measure progress, which also helps when you feel like giving up.
  4. Make it a HABIT by attaching it to another activity – this is called “habit stacking” and is golden when you’re trying to make a new habit stick. What is something else you do daily? Pick that, and make it your meditation trigger. This could be: waking up in the morning, getting into or out of the shower/bath, walking the dog to the park (sit down in the park for two mins and breath!), sitting down to watch Netflix in the evening. Pick a thing, and promise yourself you’ll meditate before it.
  5. Give yourself a reward. This is another one from habit psychology – habits have rewards. With meditation, at least at first, you may need to “hack” the reward and bribe yourself with a piece of chocolate, a YouTube video or Netflix show, or another “treat” to make it happen – until you start to notice those “benefits” and you WANT to get it done!
  6. Get a buddy and make a pact. Have another friend who’s been wanting to try daily practice? Promise each other you’ll do it, and text after you have. Bonus points if you owe each other a dollar or a coffee every time you skip 😆

I could go on – but I think that’s enough to get you started with today!

I’d love to know, is there a “problem” you’d love to “solve” with meditation? A type of meditation you’d like to try? 
 

Let me know in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to get to it in a Meditation Monday coming soon!! 
 

Love you! 

Annd if you’re ready for MORE meditation goodness right now – if you’ve been wanting to create a daily practice, or breath new life into your existing practice, make sure you check out my 30 Days of Meditation program for 30 days of easy practice tips, meditation instructions, and accountability!

How To Be Happy Where You Are AND Excited For Where You’re Going

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My work is to b happy where I am and eager for the vortex to take me where I want to go - Abraham Hicks

“My work is to be happy where I am and eager for the vortex to take me where I want to go!” – Abraham Hicks

I woke up on Friday morning thinking of this, after what felt like a very dense, heavy week of working through shadows and putting a lot of “effort” into my work, and life.

That felt exhausting, and by the end of the week…I was ready for another way.

It’s funny, because for the last few weeks I’ve been focusing on this idea of “raising my vibration” and working with my community members to support them through doing the same.

And here’s the thing: it’s been working! Overall, I’ve been feeling fantastic – but I also notice that when I spend extra time and attention focused on feeling good I can also get less tolerant of the times I don’t feel so good. Which can then make me push harder to “feel good all the time”….and in case you couldn’t guess, the paradox THERE is that it has the opposite effect!

Sooooo….what’s a generally high vibe human to do, when confronted with this pickle of an energetic situation?!

Let go!!

Before you roll your eyes like “yeah yeah, what does that even MEAN THO” let me explain!

“Letting go” is simply about dropping the resistance we’re feeling about something, which is what Abraham is talking about in the quote I shared above.

So, say you want to “feel good” but you don’t in fact feel good right now. Instead of focusing on how you DON’T feel good, and you can’t possibly feel better right now because XYZ blah blah blah….you just cut that thought off, and DO SOMETHING ELSE.

Put on a fun song, and wiggle your cute lil butt around the room. Look up a video of your favourite comedian on YouTube and laugh for a few minutes.

Or…wait for it….set a timer on your phone for 2-5 minutes and inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale, REPEAT.

Letting go or releasing resistance to something that feels unpleasant or is holding us back is just about cutting off the thought/feeling loop that’s unhelpful, and replacing it with something neutral or positive.

Like meditation. Or moving your body. Or a completely different activity that takes your mind off it.

If you feel like you’ve “got a problem” and you practice this letting go/releasing resistance often enough, the “solution” to your problem will eventually just come to you, because the space will have been made for it when you stopped filling that space with the problem itself aka the absence of a solution.

This is how you get “happy where you are and excited for what’s to come” – by letting go, lightening up, and letting it flowwwwww.

We’re going to be working on this in even more detail this week in the More Than A Meatsuit community, and if you’d like to join us – the doors are open!

Either way – have a lovely day, enjoying whatever the vortex may bring your way!

The 3-Step Process To Trusting Yourself (and never feeling like you “made a mistake” again!)

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I want to share a lesson with you today that I think is one of the most important and valuable things I’ve ever learned. It literally cost me thousands of dollars (and many years)…but you get it right now for free because I just want you to know and implement it as soon as possible.

The lesson is this: trust yourself.

Trust your gut, your intuition, and your ability to make the best choices and know what is right for you, always.

If you really, really want to change, grow or achieve any kind of true, lasting happiness, meaning, fulfillment, or success in your life…you need to learn how to really trust, support, love, and back yourself.

No one else can do it for you, and if you don’t fully trust your own ability to make choices or take action in service of your own highest good…anything outside of yourself that you can buy, learn, or achieve ain’t worth shit.

Let me explain what I mean:

Say you want to start a business around your art or passion, but you’re not sure exactly how to do that yet. So you look around and see other people succeeding in the ways you want to. Making money. Sharing their creations with the world, getting glowing feedback, having an impact on people’s lives and apparently loving every second of it.

And best part of it all? Some of these people are ALSO selling courses, books, products, or coaching to teach YOU how to do what they’ve done! They’ll share all their secrets with you, so you can be a “success” too! OMG!

(Note: I’m using the example of a business here, but this also goes for someone selling spiritual transformation, healing, a fitness or nutrition program – literally anything that will “improve” some aspect of your life.)

So, you buy their program, aka their “secrets.”

And you implement all the steps they give you, for the duration of the program/book/course/relationship you have with them.

And some things in your situation “improve.”

But you also find yourself doubting if this will really work for you.

Are you meant for this success? This transformation? This happiness?

You do the things you’ve learned, but wonder if you’ve done enough. If you’ve missed something. You get distracted, enthusiasm wanes, you second guess yourself, get busy, go back to your old habits.

Maybe that just wasn’t the thing for you. Maybe there’s another secret that this other expert is teaching that will really get you where you need to go.

So you pick up a new book or course, start following a new path and think this is it, finally, the real secrets I needed.

If you guessed at this point that this cycle just keeps repeating (or know from your own experience that it does ?)…you would be correct.

Here’s the thing.

Until what you really learn is that there is no “secret” outside of yourself, you’ll keep repeating this cycle.

Until what you really learn is that you can (and should) always trust yourself, your intuition, and your own gut feeling above everything else, you’ll keep repeating this cycle.

I’m not saying you can’t learn from other people, have a guide, way-shower or community to support you along the way. All of those things are incredibly valuable. We need knowledge, skills, and sometimes even a roadmap.

What I am saying is no one (or no thing) else holds “the secret” that will lead to your success, happiness, or transformation (and if they seem to be suggesting you can only get this non-existent “secret” from them – please run away quickly.)

You don’t need a “guru” or even a “religion” to help you access the spiritual, especially.

What you need is the trust in your own abilities to access the part of you that is “more than a meatsuit.”

There’s an awareness in you that is observing your experiences, right now. You can trust it.

It’s your “higher self.”

It’s your intuition, and inner wisdom, that always knows the right thing to do in a situation. That knows whether a person or choice or action is “right” for you before your thinking mind does.

You always have access to these things, to this wisdom, and it will help you have all the confidence you’ll ever need to direct your life however you want it to go.

The best practice you can ever cultivate for yourself, is tuning in to what your higher self has to say to you, learning how it speaks to you, and trusting those messages when they come up.

Practice getting in touch with these aspects of yourself, trusting yourself, to love and back yourself and stand in your own power.

This is one of my favourite things to help people with, because I don’t want you to just trust me (I mean, you can)…more importantly, I want you to trust YOU.

I’ve spent THOUSANDS of dollars and hours on retreats, courses, trainings, coaches, and experiences in search of personal transformation, spiritual transformation, creative transformation and success….and while it was all part of the puzzle and I’m grateful for all of it, it didn’t really “click” until I realized the missing piece – that I was trusting my various teachers and the knowledge they held more than I was trusting myself.

They all paved a path for me, but I’ve experienced more depth of growth in a year without a “teacher” other than the trust in myself to connect to my own inner knowing and awareness, to follow my intuition and guidance.

A lack of trust in yourself can look like:

  • Second-guessing your choices and decisions
  • Feeling perpetually or frequently “confused” about something, or what to do next
  • Thinking “who am I to do xyz” or having “imposter syndrome”
  • Searching for more information, education, or planning before you feel like you can begin something new
  • Procrastinating

 
When you can easily access, and become familiar with how your intuition speaks to you, or develop a relationship with your “higher self” you’ll feel like you can trust your choices and decisions, and move much more quickly, and with ease, through projects, transitions, and even little things in daily life.

I don’t want to say it’s magic – but it’s kind of magic, when you trust and support yourself.

Hear this: you never truly make a “mistake” in life, you are just doubting the choices that led you to where you are on your path when you feel this way.

In any moment, we are always doing what we think is “best” for us, it’s just that sometimes this comes from our ego-and-fear-driven thinking mind, instead of our “higher self” which has a greater perspective and knows what is truly best for our highest good.

When you learn to connect with your higher self, you can access this next-level guidance when you have a choice to make (big or little) and feel confident that you’re doing what is for your highest good and not based in fear (and everything that drives that.)

There’s a 3-step process I love to use to access my higher self wisdom, when I have a question I want an answer to, a choice to make, or just feel a little scattered in general and want to get my shit together (pro-tip: higher self always feels like “shit together!”)

Three Step Process to Access Higher Self Guidance

  1. Close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths. Make you inhales + exhales the same length, and hold the breath in at the top, and out at the bottom for a moment. Repeat for at least a minute or two to calm the nervous system and turn down the noise of the thinking mind.
  2. Place your hand on your heart centre, and take a few of these same breaths “through” your heart, with the intention you are connecting to your higher self.
  3. When you feel a calm, peaceful energy surrounding yourself – ask your higher self any specific question you may have, or just ask “is there anything I need to know right now?” And then listen to whatever bubbles up. This is your guidance – go with whatever comes up first, and trust it! Repeat this or any other questions you may have until you feel satisfied, thank yourself for the guidance – and you’re done!

This process can take as little or as much time as you’d like, depending on how much guidance you want, or how chatty your higher self is feeling!

If it feels weird, or like you’re not receiving any “guidance” or information at first – keep trying, and notice how any messages may be coming.

Some people literally hear words, or their own voice in their mind, some have a strong feeling of what to do, or you may even see images or have a song pop into your head.

Because this is YOU communicating with YOU, if you spend the time I promise you’ll be able to interpret the guidance that comes.

If you’d like to go deeper with this practice to really dive in deep with the trusting yourself, and tapping into that glorious “got my shit together” feeling, I’ve created a 15 minute guided higher self meditation that walks you through this whole process, and guides you on a few additional questions to ask for even deeper guidance and transformation.

Enter your email below to grab the meditation, and you’ll also get a short 3-day e-course on how to deepen this higher self connection even further.

It’s one of the most valuable practices you’ll ever develop, and I can’t wait for you to discover the joys of really getting to know and trust yourself.