Your resistance to something “negative” is what actually drains your energy in a situation – cue: brain ‘splodey emoji!

We just started “Raise Your Vibration” month in my More Than A Meatsuit membership community, and along with my members I’ve been paying eeeeeextra close attention to how I FEEL throughout my day.

Paying attention to what affects my energy levels and my “vibes.” To the people, places, and situations I think feel “low vibe” or draining to me.

And it’s been enlightening AF.

Because here’s the thing: when you start to pay attention to how you feel, and prioritize feeling GOOD, and energized, and high vibe, and value your ability to bounce back from the things that do drag you down….you also start to realize how important it IS to feel good. How, well, GOOD it feels to be energized and present and tuned in.

And so you also get reeeeeeeally curious about what’s going on when you’re NOT feeling tuned in, tapped in, turned on (in the vortex, as Abraham Hicks would say.)

The thing about being able to “manage” your energy and mood is that it’s 100% about being able to “manage” your reactions to external and internal circumstances in your life.

Do you let a habitual thought you tend to have affect and essentially control how your day goes?

Do you let what someone says or does around you decide whether you feel hopeful, discouraged, or have the energy to do what you want/need to do today?

That’s what “raising your vibration” is really about – being present and aware to circumstances AND having the tools to live through those circumstances without them rocking (or destroying) your boat for too long.

It’s about keeping you mind and energy clear, and present enough to know when you’re getting caught in a loop of negative thoughts/beliefs/reactions or bad “habits” that hold down your natural positive vibe (which we all have, btw – I shared a whole analogy yesterday in the group about how “bad vibes” are just like a lil bit of shmutz on your cosmic glasses, but you might have to join us to hear all of that one 😂)

I’ve had a few interesting conversations in this realm with friends over the part 24hrs, and I’m realizing that SO MUCH of getting caught in those negative loops that can bring our energy + vibe down is about resistance.

It’s about us deciding that we don’t like whatever has happened, and that we would like to experience less of it thank you very much – and that energy of pushing something away, ironically, stops us from releasing the “negative” thought or feeling that is holding our vibe down.

Chatting with a friend earlier, she expressed how she felt she’s been expending too much of her own energy on problems at her new job, including thinking about them on her days off. Even in meditation, while trying to chill and tune in, she felt this dark cloud of worries hanging over her head and once we talked through it she realized it was because she wasn’t letting the worries be fully heard.

And this made me think of how we can let “low vibe” thoughts or feelings or situations drain our energy.

So…how to stop them from draining your energy?

Counterintuitively, let them be fully seen and heard to be released.

My friend was reminded of a practice an old therapist taught her, of scheduling “worry time” in the calendar – and it’s just so silly that I love it!

You don’t have to actually “schedule” (or you can – to me just the idea of actively giving that time to worries makes a lot of them dissipate because hello – NOT actually worth my valuable scheduled time), but if you find yourself being weighed down by something that’s totally harshing your vibe – pause for a minute and let it be fully seen and heard.

You can ask what it wants you to know, if there’s a lesson to be had, or you can just witness it and then say “thank u, next” and move on to a vibe-raising activity.

I know for me, I was feeling a bit weighed down over the last few days by what I classified as “negative” and “heavy” energy from someone in my life, and when I took a moment to see what was really going on there what surfaced was the thought that I was afraid that her “bad vibes” would affect mine and drain my energy so I was resisting spending time with her.

It was a total “but duh” moment for me, where I got to see that it wasn’t HER vibe so much as it was me doubting the resilience of my own vibe that was causing this energy draining sitch!

And then the obvious choice was to engage with her as much as felt good, with some curiosity instead of judgement, and then go and take care of myself by tapping, meditating, and doing some yoga with a sweet summer playlist afterwards.

I wanted to share this with you guys today because that reframe of not resisting what I’m judging as “negative” or “heavy” or “low vibe” really turned my energy around and I figured it might be helpful to you too!

The one caveat here is of course that if someone is doing something that is TRULY harmful to you, you don’t have to put yourself in their path – but you CAN still work with what goes on inside your own mind that makes you feel bad about the situation to the best of your ability to process it. Remember – resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die 💀😳

It’s only been 3 days of our “Raise Your Vibration” month inside the More Than A Meatsuit membership, and the revelations and vibe-raising from the guided meditation and EFT routine have been JUICY. 

We have 3 ½ more weeks of this topic, with 3 more weekly practices to add to our toolbox along with the high vibe meditation and EFT routine – and I would LOVE to welcome you into the group with us if you feel called!!

I’m so in love with all of the members, and their commitment to living with intention and good vibes on this wacky spiritual journey that is life is so inspiring.

Check out allllllllll the details of what you get and how it works over here – and lemme know if you have any q’s!